It doesn’t matter if you've been married for 1 month, 1 year, 10 years or 20 years..... Divorce is HARD! AND unless you've been divorce, you do not know how it feels. It’s a feeling of mixed emotions. Depending on the situation, it can be relief, sadness, it can feel like a part of you has died, hurt, regret, depressed and everything else that I missed.
Now to come to this decision I believe that the couple has done EVERYTHING in the power to make it work including therapy, workshops, meeting with the priest.........WHATEVER IT IS, just as long as they tried. If it’s a situation with abuse and murder, well that's for Jerry Springer.
I used to be a wedding coordinator and the most beautiful thing to see is a couple uniting because they WANT to. I never witnessed a wedding for "have to" reasons. When you commit for better and worse and in sickness and in health, THATS MAJOR! You need to take that serious!!!! Also no adultery! No adultery! Marriage is not easy, it takes lots of work, so when you see people after 25 years headed towards divorce, and I think that sad. I mean all those years together then you sign the papers and boom it’s over.
But only those two people know why it didn’t work or why they didn’t want to try anymore.
It’s tough, because when you make the decision it’s not only those two people that are involved. It’s all of the family too. They have also loved both people and the children. Children may feel lost or may not understand why or how come. I'm not an advocate for divorce, however I have been divorced and God knows I tried even against my parents wishes; I tried and tried until there was no more to try for.
The best thing to do during a divorce is to surround yourself around supportive people, don’t date other people while going through the divorce especially during the beginning stages. Cry....its okay too, if you have children, I don’t suggest crying in front of them, is strong for them. They NEED you so be strong for them. Seek counseling if needed. It’s very helpful and very healthy while grieving. Do not share too much information if you can avoid it. The last thing you need is drama and the whole town talking about you and that's why I think counseling would be best, because you can share information and it would be confidential. If you have a friend or family going through a divorce, be supportive. If you haven’t been through divorce yourself, don’t judge. Try to understand even if you don’t. Be a shoulder to cry on, because they may not want to talk, they just may want to cry. Remember, they lost their partner in LIFE the one they said forever to. It’s like they lost part of their identity because everything they did was for them and for their family. When you marry, you include the others feelings always in any decision. So when that has been loss it’s like someone died or maybe something has died inside of them.
Every divorce is different; no one divorce is the same as the other accept for the feelings involved.
Again I don’t wish Divorce on anyone but if you've been through it or are going through it, know that you’re not alone and you'll always have support.
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Priscilla
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