The big "D" and No i don't mean Dallas!

It doesn’t matter if you've been married for 1 month, 1 year, 10 years or 20 years..... Divorce is HARD! AND unless you've been divorce, you do not know how it feels. It’s a feeling of mixed emotions. Depending on the situation, it can be relief, sadness, it can feel like a part of you has died, hurt, regret, depressed and everything else that I missed.

Now to come to this decision I believe that the couple has done EVERYTHING in the power to make it work including therapy, workshops, meeting with the priest.........WHATEVER IT IS, just as long as they tried. If it’s a situation with abuse and murder, well that's for Jerry Springer.

I used to be a wedding coordinator and the most beautiful thing to see is a couple uniting because they WANT to. I never witnessed a wedding for "have to" reasons. When you commit for better and worse and in sickness and in health, THATS MAJOR! You need to take that serious!!!! Also no adultery! No adultery! Marriage is not easy, it takes lots of work, so when you see people after 25 years headed towards divorce, and I think that sad. I mean all those years together then you sign the papers and boom it’s over.

But only those two people know why it didn’t work or why they didn’t want to try anymore.

It’s tough, because when you make the decision it’s not only those two people that are involved. It’s all of the family too. They have also loved both people and the children. Children may feel lost or may not understand why or how come. I'm not an advocate for divorce, however I have been divorced and God knows I tried even against my parents wishes; I tried and tried until there was no more to try for.

The best thing to do during a divorce is to surround yourself around supportive people, don’t date other people while going through the divorce especially during the beginning stages. Cry....its okay too, if you have children, I don’t suggest crying in front of them, is strong for them. They NEED you so be strong for them. Seek counseling if needed. It’s very helpful and very healthy while grieving. Do not share too much information if you can avoid it. The last thing you need is drama and the whole town talking about you and that's why I think counseling would be best, because you can share information and it would be confidential. If you have a friend or family going through a divorce, be supportive. If you haven’t been through divorce yourself, don’t judge. Try to understand even if you don’t. Be a shoulder to cry on, because they may not want to talk, they just may want to cry. Remember, they lost their partner in LIFE the one they said forever to. It’s like they lost part of their identity because everything they did was for them and for their family. When you marry, you include the others feelings always in any decision. So when that has been loss it’s like someone died or maybe something has died inside of them.

Every divorce is different; no one divorce is the same as the other accept for the feelings involved.

Again I don’t wish Divorce on anyone but if you've been through it or are going through it, know that you’re not alone and you'll always have support.

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Priscilla



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Diva Divorces Don



Well Can i just say, I saw this coming. 

Going to the Chapel

Question:  I've been with my love for 6 years. The first 3 years of our relationship was rocky and the last 3 have been great and he proposed and now i'm getting married to him this weekend. Any advice?

Do i have any advice? DUH!!! Of course I do. Now let me just throw my little disclaimer out there. It's very easy to give advice than it is to follow ones own advice. ;-)
Okay, so where do i begin. Well first off. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I love to hear when people are getting married. Its such a beautiful day and when two people love each other and decide to become one theres nothing like it. You're a team, you're a couple, you're committing to stick by one another in good, bad, sickness and in health. So I'm very happy for you (especially since you're a dear friend of mine ;-) )
I've listed below just a few topics that are very important in any relationship but especially marriage.
Communication- Communicate to your partner and not in a "you didnt do the dishes" nagging kind of way, I mean like "I know we're really busy when we get home, do you mind helping me with the dishes this evening so we can spend time together".
Trust-this is a BIGGIE. Trust extremely important. You cant live you're marriage and not trust your husband or wife. Never give the other person a reason not to trust you either, because once you do, then its EXTREMELY hard to get that trust back.
"It's better to be happy than right"- this is one of my favorite quotes. Basically this means pick your battles. Not everything is worth arguing over. Also if he or she insists that he or she is right on a topic or a matter, Stop and think about what you are both arguing about. Is it REALLY worth to keep arguing about. Let him or her win. Don't argue if its not worth it, because think about it, IF you when the argument, you have an upset husband or wife and then what? They're upset and no one really wins. BUT if you just let the other person win the argument and you can make them happy by just doing that, then do it and be happy too and hug and kiss and have great make up cough cough ;-).
One thing my mom always said that really sticks in my head is always let them think they are right. Now when she said this of course she was speaking about my dad, but it really works, i admit i have let this happen a time or two. Even if they are wrong, let them think they are right, no matter what. Let them brag to their friends about who does more in the house. Let them win an argument, let them make decisions even if you know its a wrong decision. Because at the end of the day, deep down, when its just you two at home, that's what it is "just you two" and between the both of you, deep down you know who is right.
Dont withhold  "the cookie"- This is very important especially to men and these days to women as well. Having sex is great and healthy, it releases endorphins and what better way of doing that with the one you love. I mean how great is that. Try different moves, buy a cosmo magazine, go to a store together, try different rooms in the house (of course if you do this, make sure no kids are around). There's nothing wrong with doing that in a marriage. Never pushish your husband or wife by withholding "the cookie" from them. Not good. Every marriage needs a good healthy sex life. Don't be shy or embarrased. This is your husband or wife who respects you and  loves you and trust me, if they respect you and love you they will only keep their sex life between the both of you.
WORK IT OUT!!!- Now i've mentioned this in a previous blog before. Don't be calling your girlfriends or facebooking or tweeting about your marriage or relationship drama on the "social network". WORK IT OUT! because all you do is cause more pain to the relationship. Example: Say you and your husband get mad then you go and tell all your peeps about it. THEN the next day you make up over the silly argument and have really great make up cough cough and you guys are good. So then all your friends should be good too. Right? WRONG!!! You're friends are bias and how could you forgive your husband blah blah blah. Now you got your friends against your husband even though you've forgiven and move on. Trust me, i've seen it a billion and 1 times.  So dont share just WORK IT OUT!!!
Forgive- forgive, forgive, forgive! If its small, forgive, if they're sorry and it truly wasnt adultry, illegal, domestic violence or well you get the picture. Use your judgement on what you should argue or not argue about. Forgive, especially if both parties want the relationship to work, forgiveness is Key!!!!

of course there are different scenarios for every marriage. No marriage is alike and i could go on and on about advice, howevah, i'm not perfect either and neither are you. Just remember Marriage takes work from both parties and as long as you both are willing to "work" at it and respect each other, you should be fine. Congrats and Best wishes on your marriage!

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Jersey Day

So apparently now Thursdays are considered "Jersey Day". If you are a fan there is no explanation needed. For you not in the "reality TV World", this simply means that Jersey Shore will be on.

K, so before the season ends, I must give my two cents in about how I feel about Sammi and Ronnie. I have one word to describe this relationship "TOXIC". Ugh. This couple needs to break up and stay broken up. It’s not healthy to be in a jealous, sneaky, "shady" relationship. Move on.

I know it’s easy to say rather than do, but seriously this relationship needs to be DONE!

Sammi and Ronnie have had issues since day one and let me tell your relationship starts bad, it’s very rare that it gets better and basically Sammi and Ronnie is a ticking bomb. They'll eventually break up and we all know it, BUT WHEN?

Their relationship is a perfect example of what a relationship should NOT be like. I mean, when they are together, they are obviously not themselves and Ronnie always seems upset when they stay in and don’t go out with everyone else. This is NOT how a relationship should be people. Even if you don’t want to go with your guy or gals friends, GO. This is part of the relationship is being supportive and being there for the one you care about. Being social with your partners friends is the key. No one likes their friends not to like their significant other, because that just makes things awkward and uncomfortable for all parties involved.

Jealousy. (a big NO NO) Love is not jealous. So when they say "I love you" is not a jealous free " I love you".  In order for a relationship to be healthy there should be no jealousy. I know i know easy to say hard to do huh. Well if you really care and love that person TRY, TRY really hard, becaus its worth it. In Sammi and Ronnies case, they both have broken each others trust by going out and "talking, making out with other peeps. Not good. So for them if they WANT to stay together, they need to leave the past in the past (after all they chose to forgive one another RIGHT?) and MOVE on. YEA RIGHT!!! that wont happen with them.

Howevah, for us normal people in non reality tv world its Hard, like REALLY hard to move on and leave the past in the past, however its Necessary to leave all the betrayals behind IF you want to stay together.

So the moral of this blog is PLEASE PLEASE avoid a "Sammi and Ronnie" relationship. Its not healthy. Be healthy!

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Oooh "La La"



"Hello, my name is Priscilla and I'm addicted to reality TV". Yes, I admit, I’m a reality TV Junkie from Teen Mom, all the housewives cities and of course every reality show that includes couples is my addiction. Sue me!

Well here we have yes ANOTHER reality TV show "La La's Full Court Life" premieres August 2011........a spin off from "La La's Full Court wedding. So for those of you not familiar with who La La Vasquez is, she is Puerto Rican MTV's VJ who has also recently wed the famous half black, half Puerto Rican Carmelo Anthony who now plays for the New York Knicks BABY!!! (My second favorite basketball team). cough cough.

The reason I like this couple is because they are the most "REAL" peeps I’ve seen on reality TV in a LONG BEEEEP time. FINALLY!!! A normal couple!

Just to give you some background-Yes the little boy is theirs. Lala is a hardworking woman who started off in radio and then worked hard as a VJ on MTV and other movie ventures and hosting gigs. She is a very busy woman! She and Carmelo have been an item since well I don’t recall exact dates but it’s been for EVAH and they've been engaged since 2004 and wed last summer 2010.  But the wedding was worth the wait, they had an immaculate ceremony and I just couldn’t be happier for them. What I liked in La La's full court wedding is that they had a barbecue for the rehearsal dinner. YUMMY!!!

Now why must I go on and on? WELL   .......................      

Like all couples, they've gone through A LOT of trials and tribulations but they've stuck with each other through it all and that is a team. The best advice that I loved during the wedding is when one of Carmelo’s buddies stood up and said "I don’t want NO phone calls, NO text messages, NO emails, just WORK IT OUT! “ When he said that I was like YES!!!! Someone finally said it. Too many people just want to give up and throw in the towel and let the relationship DIE of that deadly disease......the big "C".........No, not Cancer, but COMMUNICATION. Tell them you love them, tell them what bothers you, and tell them what you love about them. TELL THEM!! COMMUNICATE PEOPLE and WORK IT OUT. lol

So will Lala and Carmelo make it? Only the dude up above knows, however I sure hope so. After all those years of being engaged, having a baby and Carmelo’s drug incidences (that's another blog), marriage should be like a piece of cake for them. Right? lol good Luck on your show and your marriage LaLa. I'll be watching and I hope you watch too. Besitos!

Quote: The Worst part of life is waiting. The best part of life is having someone worth waiting for.-Jessica Brumley

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My Achy Breaky Heart

Question: I'm 42 years old and I hadn't been in a relationship since my divorce and I finally thought I had found "the one", until she broke my heart after a year of dating. How do I move on?

Break ups are never easy especially if you thought they were "the one". I’m sure you're at the point where you're not in a relationship just to be "in a relationship". At this point in your life a man in his thirties and forties is typically ready to settle down and done playing "games". (At least most are). So when you meet that special person and everything is going great then she breaks your heart. That's just the ultimate. Right? Wrong. Try to think about all the positives as soon as you know the relationship is truly over. At least you didn't marry her. Right?
Of course what you first need to do is cry. Cry, Cry and Cry and let it all out.
Then enlist family and friends for support. What I would suggest is to call your single buddies, let them take you out and if that’s not your thing, maybe join some extracurricular activities in your community such as coed bowling, softball or volleyball. Summer time is coming out, so how about join a gym. OR how about plan a trip with friends, family and/or children. Whatever you decide to do, just keep BUSY!!! You need that .............for now. As time goes on (because we all know you can't get over a broken heart in a day) you can choose whether or not you want to go out or just chill at home and veg out. Order pizza and rent a movie at home. Or you can have people over. Also every morning make it a habit to make a "to do" list so you know you have things to do before and after work that will keep your mind occupied.
Now I’m not saying you're not going to think about her, however you might not think of her as much and as time goes on and you continue to occupy yourself with friends, family and activities you'll think of her less and less. All of this goes for the ladies as well. And maybe go on a date or two just to get back in the game and have some fun. Always be honest with the other person if you're not ready to move forward and you're just out to have fun.
Again, this healing process, may take a lot of time, but you will definitely heal faster by keeping busy and not staying home crying.

Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go! ~ Author Unknown
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together. - Anonymous

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California Gurl no longer sees Fireworks?

Is three months too soon for couples therapy? I think not! Although representatives for both Katy and Russell Brand deny reports of them attending couples therapy after three months, I still choose to blog about this relationship.
So here you have your typical "Hollywood" couple, ROCK STAR  meets ACTOR. Let's remember Hollywood years are like dog years, 1 year of being married in Hollywood is like 7 years in non-Hollywood. So seeking therapy after 3 months is normal. Right? The first year is always the hardest year, learning to adjust to the whole "we're OFFICIALLY TOGETHER on paper now".  It can be a little intimidating, but if you really love each other, then it's TOTALLY worth it.
For any marriage to work, it takes commitment, sacrifice and communication and love and I think in order for this to work (which I USUALLY hope that it does) they should definitely go to therapy and have the therapist help them out before they and make typical Hollywood mistakes, and then divorce.
NOW-Katy Perry is about to go on Tour while Russell brand will be filming his new movie which means there be lots of time apart from each other. From my Research Katy has set time out in between her tour to be able get away and go spend time with her Honey. YAY! This is very important as well as the communication. Hopefully they have the technology to be able to communicate on a daily basis via, text, phone call and video chat with each other (with all their money, they better have all of that)
My advice to anyone in this situation (which is all of us right? he he) is go to the therapy, follow the therapists advice, have a game plan of how they will see each other and communicate with each other when they are away. This helps also the other person feel secure in their relationship and lets the other person know, "hey even though we're apart, I'm still with ya"! TRUTH! If they stick to this and hopefully they do, then the marriage will not only last longer but become stronger.
Sooooo  "IF" the rumors are true, then more power to sista woman, Katy Perry. Obviously she loves her husband and wants to work at it or be proactive in the marriage, which all people who have been married, know it’s not an easy journey whether you’re in Hollywood or NOT!